Catholic teaching on dating someone divorced
Instead, sexuality should be an expression of unity for life, just as newlyweds vow to be with each other until death does them apart.
If you wait until marriage, having sex will truly be “making love” and will be a unique experience with that one special person.
You’re also taking advantage of another person, using his or her body as a tool to make you feel good. God knows that sometimes, under the influence of hormones and emotions, we can sometimes forget ourselves and do something inappropriate.
I’ve had sex or engaged in sexual contact before marriage. This does not necessarily mean that you are a “bad Catholic.” If you’ve read St.
Augustine’s Confessions (and if you haven’t, you should!
), then you will find out that, before his conversion, the future bishop of Hippo had a particularly strong sexual appetite! Augustine became one of the Church Fathers and one of the most important people in our Church’s history.
If you feel that you can’t control your sex drive, talk to a Catholic priest and he will definitely give you advice. Above all, try to think about things in the long-term.
First of all, if you’ve ever heard anyone – a priest, layperson, or anyone else – tell you that sex is something bad, then he or she is absolutely wrong! In the Old Testament, the book Song of Songs features wonderful poetry about the beauty of human sexuality. John Paul II gave many lectures about the beautiful Biblical view of sexuality in his Theology in the Body (also recommended is his classic book Love and Responsibility).
Also remember about how the other person will feel.
As Catholics, we want to treat our brothers and sisters as we want ourselves to be treated.
Kissing, holding hands and hugging are all perfectly acceptable ways of showing your feelings.
A good rule of thumb is that if something involves genital contact, contact with other intimate parts (breasts, buttocks, etc.), leads to orgasm or feels sexual (French kissing, for example), then it just isn’t appropriate for a dating relationship.